When Reagan was born it reset my body to beat alopecia. Between the pregnancy hormones, breast feeding, prenatal vitamins and the kick-me-into-labor dose of potosin, my body responded with rapid hair growth. After 12 weeks of maternity leave, I came back to work without a wig, and was sporting a short spiky, spunky new do.
At my three month check up, I jokingly told my doctor that he was going to need to set me up on a potosin drip so that I could keep my hair! People laugh, but honestly, I kept having kids, and the healthy cycle worked. I kept my hair!
My doctor let me know that my bright idea actually would not work. The body doesn’t receive potosin unless the cervix is effaced and ready for childbirth. The drug that is supposed to enduce and speed labor actually doesn’t do anything at all unless your body is ready for labor.
What a lesson.
How often are we begging for something we aren’t ready to receive. Or what about when blessings are sent our direction, but they are ineffective because we are not prepared to handle it. Things rarely happen in a isolated vacuum. Life is interdependent. In order for something to accomplish it’s purpose, it’s likely going to be dependent on the fact that something else will have to be made ready.
Let’s get ready! Be ready! Live ready!
Each Sunday at church our pastor declares a blessing over us… do we receive it?
Heck, most people can’t even really receive a compliment! I can’t tell you the number of times a genuine compliment is deflected with a self-deprecating remark.
When I think about recievers, especially with the season our Chiefs have been having…. I get a visual of this!
You have seen some amazing catches, and also witnessed some frustrating misses. It’s about timing, position, momentum, direction, and having your hands ready for the catch! The best receivers know it requires being at the right spot and running towards the expected pass, even before you can see it coming. Receivers run downfield each and every time believing that the pass is coming straight to them.
It may be safe to say some of us are hoping to receive but aren’t running away from the ball!
We want the benefits of the potosin but yet we aren’t nine months pregnant and ready to have a baby!
God can send you blessings…. and I believe He does. But it’s possible – (if you aren’t a ready receiver) that they can slip thru your fingers. Let’s ask God to help us catch what life throws at us.
May we be positioned, ready to receive!
Everyone once in a while I read a verse and it resenates with me in a deep and powerful way. It will quickly become significant. In that season, when it’s a NOW Word for me, I can repeatedly read it, memorize it, preach, read it again, apply application and continue to expand my thoughts on it. Each time, God helps me unpack it more… and ironically, uses it to convict and correct.
The Bible is so unique and rich. A key verse may not make such a personal connection with those around me. That’s ok; for this season, this Word is mine. There is nothing dull or repetitive about it. It’s shaping me, equipping me. It’s prophetic. So pardon my repetitive hashtags or redundant use of the same scripture… but… it’s just I’m still soaking it in.
I have been settled in II Peter 1:3-8 for a while.
Its too good to cut down. No abbreviated clip art version of this passage gives it the proper emphasis.
II Peter 1:3-8 His divine power has given us everything we need for a godly life through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness. 4 Through these he has given us his very great and precious promises, so that through them you may participate in the divine nature, having escaped the corruption in the world caused by evil desires.
5 For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; 6 and to knowledge, self-control;and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; 7 and to godliness, mutual affection; and to mutual affection, love.8 For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ.
Imagine the irony when I realized that in the midst of my “make every effort” season, I quit blogging. 🤦🏼♀️
I mean, I didn’t quit on purpose…. it just sort of happened. Excuses, insecurities and redirected but unaddressed fear will do that. It will dull your dreams and silence your passion.
When you don’t make an effort, you may accidentally quit.
Here’s the really great news. Starting again can be easy. It may be a bit risky, but let’s make an effort and start again.
This blog is emotional for me. It represents the hope that something else is coming. It feels like a bridge to somewhere I very much hope to be going. So when it “feels” like sharing my experiences don’t matter, when it feels like wasted words that no one reads it… I guess the reality is— it’s easier to quit trying than to buckle down and try harder. It’s easier to talk yourself out of wanting it than to hope, believe and consistently work hard. When you can’t control something, it’s easier to quit than to trust.
But, as long as II Peter is ringing in my ears, I can’t deny that I have not made every effort.
I want to be effective and productive. I want that supernatural divine nature, and I want those precious promises. What’s really available when we make every effort? What’s possible when we add, layer and stack up the characteristics described above?
If you haven’t done all you can do, you haven’t done all you can do.
You can. I can. Make every effort.
So it happened again, and I know you can relate. In the car this evening, my kids complained about it being too warm, so I turned down the heat.
It reminded me of the numerous times the temperature is uncomfortable and we forget to notice. Then, something inside clicks, and suddenly we realize- “Man, I’m really hot!” Now that I am aware, there is a sense of urgency. “Something’s got to change!” Oh wait…. I remember…. I can turn up the air. I have the power to adjust the temperature! I can fix this!
In life, we all experience some discomforts. Would you consider that the power to change your situation is often within your control? Here’s the question, are you uncomfortable enough to recognize it? Are you ready to take control and change the temperature? Are you riding around in a hot box, not yet aware that it doesn’t cost any extra to be comfortable in your car. The controls just need adjusted.
If you have been in the faith community for long, you may agree that we have an enemy in the world that can be blamed for much of the hardship, challenge and temptation people face. I agree. I also think we may over-spiritualize it. We blame the devil or question God, but what if it’s really just life? And what if the solution to some of life’s disappointments are really found in self control, discipline and better choices?
The Bible is full of examples where people pray and ask God to move on their behalf. The miracle often happens through the faithfulness of the person making the ask. God has equipped us with a fully loaded vehicle with standard equipment that is available to all of us. Instead of driving around in a hot car, complaining we are hot, praying the temperature would change, or better yet— praying your spouse would change the temperature… I have a challenge for us to consider— lean up, take control and make adjustments! The answer may not come soley through prayer, it’s gonna take some action! Take control and do what is within your power to do!
The subject of this blog actually surprises me. It feels like an opposite statement from the undertone lesson I have been learning. I am reading a book, “Control Girl.” It outlines the joy found in letting go of the burden of control. It’s about surrendering our lives to the Sovereign plan of God. But the key has been to recognize ways in control is present in my life. It’s been stepping on my toes in the best sort of ways. However, laying down the reigns of micro managing the lives of loved ones, surrendering my scripted expectation is an entirely different version of surrounded control.
Today is about recognizing that perhaps we have unintentionally relinquished the control (the power) God has given us to change. Maybe the something we are waiting to change is really us!
We are equipped with power, love and a sound mind! (2 Timothy 1:7) We have been given everything we need for life and godliness! (2 Peter 1:3) We know a lot, we should do what we know. (Phil 4:9)
Don’t give up your authority. Don’t waste the benefits that come with the plan of salvation. And, don’t make this too complicated.
What came to mind when I said…. “Are you miserable enough yet to make a change?”
Your morning routine? Your house? Your health? Nutrition or activity level? Do you desire improvement in your spiritual vitality? Anger or patience? Spending habits? Fear? Procrastination? How about writing that book? Going back to school? If you are reading this, waiting for me to call out your “thing” – come on, go for it! Take control of the thermostat of your life and take steps towards what you really want!
Take time today to write it down. You didn’t on’t have to have the answers or the entire plan. But use today as the chance to sit up and say, I am ready to take control and make some changes.
Any excuse will do, but then again, no excuse can stop you! Just decide today, and then decide again tomorrow.
#makeeveryeffort #dontquit #startagain #takecontrol … maybe the tone of my blogs are relatively similar, but maybe it’s beacuase it is what we need to keep hearing. Be a dreamer, but also be a doer. Time will pass, you can make changes and see the slow progress but real benefits… The temperature won’t change in thirty seconds, but progress is coming- and it’s sure better than riding powerless in a hot car. Let’s do this!
An interview question I like to ask potential new hires is, “Tell me about a defining moment in your career.”
A recent candidate, let’s call him Mark, shared a management experience that offers a great lesson. He told me he was most proud of creating value in his team by providing structure. Years past, he was hired into supervisory role that had previously been vacant for several months. His new boss explained that he would likely need to “clean house.” The boss elaborated that the staff was insubordinate, under performing, casual about disregarding policies, known for taking long lunches, leaving early- the list continued.
Rather than firing any of the staff, Mark accepted the challenge to provide vision and create the change he needed to see. He saw value in the existing employees, but understood that good people need direction. He asked questions. established boundaries, lead by example, and asked them for more. He drew a line, and asked his new team to walk it. They did. They flourished and the team began to thrive. Their quality metrics, performance, and moral soared. Why? Inherently, we all need a little structure. We want to be good at what we do, and that happens best when we have a clear vision of what to do! Good leadership creates value by setting expectations, creating boundaries, and casting a vision. This is the framework for success. So, likewise, let’s be good at leading the our minds.
The Bible says that without vision people perish . It’s not that they die,but rather that they aimlessly wander off course. With no vision, resources are wasted and people are scattered.
So it is with our minds.
Our unsaved, fleshly brains can not be left to their own devices. Without a little self management, restraint, coaching and correction- our minds will be scribbling outside of all the lines in all the worst kinds of ways. Our unrestrained minds will tell us lies of everything we can’t do. It will justify selfish thoughts. It will harbor critical and bitter emotions. Our minds will build cases on self-righteous excuses to convince us sin is acceptable! Our minds will shift blame and never be satisfied, pleased or content. It’s just exhausting.
You can’t fire your mind, but you can actually clean house!
Draw a line and tell your mind to walk it! You can take your emotions and thoughts captive. You have the power to cast down those crazy imaginations and the movie in your mind that is so counterproductive. You can wash your mind- it may take some work. Renew your mind and thoughts with God’s truth. Lead your mind to better places. Take charge!
We know the battle is in the mind— fight it well.
May our greatest defining moment be when we value our own thought life enough to continuously provide a healthy framework of both structure and correction.
I love to be reminded, in life, we are just a little spec in the universe. Looking out an airplane window is a great way to recapture that… Seeing nothing but clouds, the great expanse of blue sky. Then as we descend, we see the patchwork of thousands acres of land. As we approach landing— we see little league fields, backyard pools, busy freeways, high rise hotels, corporate offices, and observe life happening without us.
There is a pace and rhythm to life so much greater than our own.
I do think God made us all significant. We have purpose, influence and a calling to fulfill. Yet, it’s refreshing humility that reminds us: small things small, your life is just a small speck, a fleeting mark.
I met a man on the plane. He was curious about the book I was reading. Also, he wondered why I would carry my heavy Bible, why not use a phone app? … After all, even a ranch hand like him had a Bible on a phone app.
I didn’t even ask his name. He was originally from a town of just 14 houses in the open country of New York. When the population grew to 21 houses, his dad moved the family up into the mountains (because he didn’t like the crowds). More than ten years of service in the Marine Corp had given him education and life experience. He has traveled to more states and countries than I could name. He is currently the care-taker of a 150 acre ranch in California. He trains horses and gives guided horseback tours. He has never sent an email, logged onto Facebook, and frankly, he doesn’t see much need to start.
The flight was a bit much for him, as normally he sees just two or three people a day. You wouldn’t know it by our conversation, he was quite the talker. He was flying home from a visit to his parents’ back in NY. His mom was ill and his dad was falling behind on work. This grown son flew CA to NY to cut firewood and help his dad prepare their property for winter. He is one of 4 siblings. Everything about him was genuine, simple and content.
And his favorite female hero of the Bible? (After all, the original question about my book that sparked the entire conversation….) – Lydia. We also talked about characteristics learned from Ester, Rahab, Sarah and others. He knew the Bible well.
When we landed, we parted ways. I thanked him for his service and he thanked me for the conversation. I will never see him again, but his story is a great reminder.
The world is big and we are small.
God is sovereign and we are limited.
Life is short and it’s eternity that really matters.
What were you worried about? What pressing issues are you frustrated about today? A spec, a fleeting trouble. Here today and gone tomorrow. Breath deep, choose peace, and surrender to the idea that your life yours is not yours to control. The Qualifed God who made the big big world, He also made you. He sees you in this very moment. He’s got this.
Does anyone still use filing cabinets?
What happens to all that information?There’s actually a thought behind the question… stick with me.
This past July and August, more than normal, I feel like I received an exceptional amount of excellent information… so many sources: From the preparation and teaching at Joyful Hearts women’s conference, meaningful conversations with friends, a Global Leadership Summit that I attended through work, a timely eye opening book, revelations from the Holy Spirit, morning devotions, prayer walks with a friend, and weekly sermons for my pastor. I just feel full.
But information doesn’t automatically equate to transformation.
Here’s how I see it for me, personally- I’m a note taker, I’m actually a good note taker… Fast and furious, I am recording the words, thoughts, key phrases- it flows so naturally for me to capture the information. In addition, I feel like I have a pretty good memory. So if we were to pause and have a conversation about one of these topics, I could likely recall the information, analogies and personal stories. I could re-share it with you and be able to transfer the information.
I record. But maybe without even knowing it, I turn the page and write down my next set of notes and I file it away. But, knowing stuff isn’t really the point. Stacks of complete journeys doesn’t mean progress.
When it comes to application, do you ever feel like you’ve just filled up a spiritual filing cabinet? It’s there,. but it’s not really being incorporated and integrated into the daily details of life. It’s not creating change.
How do we go from hearing teaching to really learning? How do we apply it and change?
How do we hit the pause button long enough to make it matter. We can’t just continue receiving information and filing away. It’s time to seek and receive information, allow it to impact and change our thoughts, have some evidence of growth reflected in our behaviors, and begin making positive strides in the way think.
How? I’m posing the question, but I don’t really have an answer.
For me, I think it goes back to my January conviction of creating a life with more margin… We need the continuous adjustment to a slower pace that allows for time of self reflection, meditation and intentionality. We can keep living a life of reaction. We renew our mind with the washing of the Word.
For you, I’d like to ask:
What are you dreaming about?
What are you trying to improve?
What topic causes conviction?
What do you know?
What do you do about what you know?
What’s in your filing cabinet that needs to be pulled out and actually applied to your life? It’s not just about knowing what we know, but rather internalizing Truth in a way that shapes who we are. Let’s do that!
There is something I want you to know. Your imperfect marriage teaches me more than I could ever learn from your efforts to present a perfect one. Your honesty about your struggles gives me courage to be honest with myself about mine. Your frustration and disappointment about unanswered prayer gives me tenacious hope to keep believing for mine. Your faith in a Sovereign God, despite difficult situations, reminds me to stay humble. Your pain pushes me to make progress fighting mine. Your transparency about fear, anxiety, or a lack of faith strengthens my resolve to dig for the Truth. Together, we can be relentless to fight for the Freedom that Truth can bring. Your failures aren’t wasted because I can learn from your mistakes. Your endurance helps me to stand, but your intentional rest teaches me to seek peace and rest as well.
You see, we can spend so much time trying to make our lives look like what we think they should be, that we miss the beauty of sharing life just as it is.
People think I cry all the time, but what they don’t know is, I have a “church cry.” It’s usually pretty easy to keep it respectable. It’s never fake, but it’s just a simple surface expression of emotion. I dabb my tears and smile. If I was really honest, I sometimes smile because I want people to know it’s a “good cry.” Do you know what I mean? The good church cries are when we feel the presence of God. When I can see Him moving among others, or I am hear a testimony of answered prayer. When someone is moved, I am moved, and I church cry. I enjoy those tears very much.
However, when I am hurting, I mean really hurting, confused, disappointed, fearful or angry… I ugly cry. It takes me a while to get there, I mean I am pretty good at holding it in. I try to keep my pace and save my face — but when I can’t take it anymore, I ugly cry. I collapse into a little pile and I just let it all out. My mascara runs when I ugly cry, then my eyes sting, and my nose starts to run. Yes, it quickly turns into a really ugly cry. But here is what is important: I get the very best advice right after that breaking moment. When I finally get vulnerable, let my guard down and just exhale, there is peace. Take a deep breath, inhale, exhale, there is peace. Maybe no answers, but yet the burden feels lighter. The wave of peace may come from God Himself, or could be delivered through good insight and comfort from your husband or a friend. Certainly and consistently there is a release. Last night, I wondered, “Why do we wait so long to process?”
I think it’s because we haven’t figured out the benefit of our doubts, our struggles, our desire to be better. There is benefit. We think we need to tidy up, hide them and be strong all the time. But, in reality, I am thankful to be a messy work in progress. I don’t want to be the same next year as I am today. Next year I will still have trials, areas to grow and character to refine— but I pray I will be climbing different mountains, not going around the same ones. Our progress is valuable. I am certain if we are more open with our walk, share more of our story, the journey won’t feel as lonely. And even better, still God can use our story to benefit someone else.
As many of us are getting ready for church this morning, I challenge us all to leave our church face at home. Bring all of you to the House of God today. All of your best, and all of your “unfinished” self. Even if you have to ugly cry, your tears open up such deep and sincere compassion in me. How can I pray for you when I can’t see your struggle? Give yourself the freedom to be transparent today. As we are called to bear one another’s burdens, it also implies we must share one another burdens.
Your pain isn’t wasted. If we share it, we can bear it together, and God gets the glory. I may have hurt, but I am a wounded healer. I sin, yet I can lead other sinners to Jesus…. and so can you! In my honesty about my imperfection, I hope to show the perfect love of Christ.
This morning I was watering my flowers, and they taught me a couple of little lessons. Our Pastor gave us the book, “Secrets of the Vine” by Bruce Wilkinson. Perhaps reading this book inspired my thoughts….
With the hot sun and lack of rain, these poor plants and flowers have deserved water twice a day. So I have done just that. The potted plants on the front porch have shade and they are beautiful and doing quite well. My back flower garden has partial shade mixed with the face melting, scorching-hot sun. For several of them, the struggle is real!
But… I have been so diligent to water them? They should be thriving! I have been so liberal with the supply. Why are they not doing better? Standing over the top, looking down, soaking them gently from the hose- what’s wrong?
Then, I stooped and looked closer
Lesson 1: Your perspective is different when you lean down and stoop.
The first thing I noticed was my poor Daylily. It was doing so well before, but it’s base was now full of several dead shafts. It appeared that it needed pruned. But seemed too early, and those sprout hadn’t even gotten to mature and didn’t even produce any flowers yet?… But pouring water on something dead didn’t help.
Lesson 2: Let go of the dry, damaged, dead areas. Don’t let them over run the new growth that is trying to spring up. Once I pulled out all those ugly brown shafts, the rest of the green leafy plant looked healthier.
The next little flowers were my mixed daisies, they had lost color and were whitheree. I leaned in, only to discover- their roots were on top of the soil!
Lesson 3: Surface roots will not sustain you. For a rich healthy plant to produce multiple colorful blooms, the roots must run deep to provide both secure and connection as well as nutrients. I reached down and gently pressed the roots back into the soil, a little pressure to get them down deep…
Lastly, I was looking at my tickseed plant. A portion of it was green, and for several days I noticed about half the plant was turning more brown by the day. I really think it has bad been stepped on and damaged. Again, and I leaned in for a closer look,and the base had been snapped off and while still standing tall, it was entirely separated from itself.
Lesson 4: We can’t grown when we are not connected. No matter how much water I put on top of this plant, that couldn’t fix it.
Isn’t the Lord gracious that He can use everyday life, and the smallest of moments to provide reminders for daily living? Oh, how He wants us to live this abundant life in prosperity- beyond measure, joy and peace!
Stoop to listen and help.
Let go of the past.
Let your roots run deep.
Always stay connected.